How do you tell someone you want to use different pronouns?

What To Say:

1. Hey! I just wanted to let you know that I am changing my pronouns (and name if that applies).
2. Hi! My name is ___.
3. Hey! It’s great to see you.
4. I just want you to know that when you use my deadname and my wrong pronouns, it really hurts me.

What is a preferred first name?

Preferred first name is a name that can be displayed on certain College records instead of your legal first name. Your preferred first name is the name you would like to be referred to in the classroom and elsewhere on campus. All other official college documents will display your legal name.

What pronouns do I use for myself?

Personal pronouns are the words used in place of specific people, places or things. Pronouns like “me, myself and I” are how people talk about themselves, and pronouns like “you, she, he and they” are some pronouns that people use to talk about others.

How do you ask someone to share their pronouns with you?

First, make sure that you have shared your own pronouns. Doing so is the best way to encourage other people to share their pronouns, to help make them more comfortable to share their pronouns with you. If you are meeting someone new one-to-one, you might say something like: “Hi, I’m Akeem, and I go by ‘they’ pronouns. How should I refer to you?

How do you ask a non-binary friend if they use they/them pronouns?

If you still feel that is confusing, you can be explicit (“I asked Poppy – who uses they/them pronouns – they might come”). This also takes the onus off your non-binary friend for having to explain it themselves later.

Why do we use they/them pronouns?

Why they/them? It is normal in the English language to use they/them pronouns when we don’t know the gender of the person to which we’re referring, or if we want our sentence to be applicable to all genders. This isn’t new – the saying “Everybody loves their own mother” has been used since around late 1300.

What if I don’t know someone’s name or pronouns?

If you aren’t sure of someone’s name or pronouns but you have already asked or met the person, it is okay to ask for them again or later. For the classroom, club/organization, or any other group that meets regularly, there are several ways to make space for pronouns.