Should you expect an apology?

Apologizing helps repair relationships by getting people talking again, and makes them feel comfortable with each other again. A sincere apology allows you to let people know you’re not proud of what you did, and won’t be repeating the behavior.

What does it mean when a person says sorry all the time?

Over-apologizing is a common problem for those of us with codependent tendencies. It’s a symptom of our low self-esteem, fear of conflicts, and laser-sharp focus on other people’s needs and feelings.

What to say to someone who keeps apologizing?

Try saying: “Thank you, I needed to hear this apology. I really am hurt.” Or, “I appreciate your apology. I need time to think about it, and I need to see a change in your actions before I can move forward with you.” Don’t attack the transgressor, as hard as it may be to hold back in the moment.

Do you have complicated feelings about apologies?

Many people have complicated feelings about apologies, and not all of our thoughts and feelings about apologies line up. Some of us were forced to apologize as children when we hurt someone, and some of us apologized freely and felt immediately better after having done so.

Why don’t people apologize for their mistakes?

The idea that they could make a mistake and still be a valuable and good person is unthinkable for someone whose self-esteem is severely lacking. An apology is an admission of fallibility, which can trigger the vast reservoir of inadequacy and shame they carry, and thus threaten the fragile narrative they’ve constructed about themselves.

Does apologizing help repair relationships?

Apologizing helps repair relationships by getting people talking again, and makes them feel comfortable with each other again. A sincere apology allows you to let people know you’re not proud of what you did, and won’t be repeating the behavior.

Why is it important to apologize sincerely to someone?

If the other person is expecting something unreasonable or impossible, perhaps you’re taking responsibility for more than you need to. An insincere apology can often do more damage than no apology at all. When you are apologizing, it is important to include a few key ingredients so you can apologize sincerely.